Love cannot exist as a duty : to tell a child that it ought to love its parents and its brothers and sisters is utterly useless, if not worse. Parents who wish to be loved must behave so as to elicit love, and must try to give to their children those physical and mental characteristics which produce expansive affections.
Source: On Education, especially in early childhood, 1926, by Bertrand Russell<
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