A friendly interest in persons is a form of affectionateness, but not the form which is grasping and possessive and seeking always an emphatic response. This latter form is very frequently a source of unhappiness.
Source: The Conquest of Happiness, 1930, Chap.6:Envy, by Bertrand Russell.
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