Psychologically, parents should be a background, and the child should not be made to act with a view to giving his parents pleasure. Their pleasure should consist in his growth and progress ; anything that he gives them in the way of response should be accepted gratefully as a pure extra, like fine weather in spring, but should not be expected as part of the order of nature.
Source: On Education, especially in early childhood, 1926, Pt. 2： Education of character, chap. 11: Affection and Sympathy
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