Do not say, in a general way, “Be brave, be kind “, but urge him to some particular piece of daring, and then say’ ” Bravo, you were a brave boy” ; get him to let his little sister play with his mechanical engine, and when he sees her beaming with delight say, ” That’s right, you were a kind boy.” The same principle applies in dealing with cruelty : look out for its faint beginnings and prevent them from developing.
Source: On Education, especially in early childhood, 1926, Pt. 2： Education of character, chap. 9: Punishment
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